I've never told anyone what I'm going to tell you. “When I was giving birth to my daughter, the doctor grabbed my hand and brought her to her own leg. He had the penis upright.”

About twenty women, sitting in a circle, got stuck. The woman will be about 70 years old. I'm in a town in Catalonia talking about the need to promote empowerment in the face of fear of Internet-related violence and sexual harassment. The group of women is varied, from three generations (the youngest are fifteen years old). A very exciting atmosphere of trust has been created.

A woman of about 60 years old has reported that when she was under age one of her co-workers tried to rape her. Subsequently, her 30-year-old daughter has reported that she also managed to stop a sexual assault that was sexually assaulted by a local neighbor.

Tips such as “not chatting with strangers” place the risk abroad. Since the time of Jack the Ripper, women have been living with the ghost of a cruel stranger who goes down the street. To avoid this monster, we must limit our autonomy and freedom, especially the sexual one. But today, we know that most sexist assaults are caused by well-known people. When they know each other, it is more difficult to accept and denounce this violence: because man has power or good reputation, that is why they will not believe us, because we will provoke a conflict in the people, because we will meet him often.

Neighbor, partner, lover, husband, doctor (! ), priest. The priest has been quoted several times by the older ladies in this conversation. “Well, at that time I didn’t know that sitting on the priest’s knees and having their obscene touches were sexual abuse.”

The discussion sparked the debate: Do we have reason to be optimistic? Even though they are afraid of being a woman with unknown men, despite the fact that because they are a woman, they face attacks by celebrities. Should we be optimistic because that silence has been broken, because we have broken it?

But they also tell a disturbing story: a month ago, in the bathrooms of a GRANOLLERS nightclub, the two boys raped a girl. On social media, a lot of people accused the girl of having participated in the fight. The girl kissed both a man and a woman while dancing. I mean, she was raped for her sexual freedom. Do not be surprised that the defence uses this argument in the trial. Remember the trial for the murder of Nagore Laffage.

She provoked the aggression for being a prostitute. They say that when we start with our legs open, we provoke the gynecologist. When we are children, we are provocative and we want abuses. The bishops of Tenerife have said so in 2007 and the cardinals of Lima in 2016. We carry the burden of Eve's original sin.

But today we identify machismo and violence in these kinds of attitudes, aggressions and rumors. In social networks and in the media, there has been a debate on sexual consent. The motto 'No is no' can be read everywhere. The prosecutor has asked the group of men who raped a woman in the past Sanfermines for a sentence of twenty-two years in prison. However, the herd has received the compliments of its followers on the Internet and on the city’s football grounds.

We have raised the memory of the violence experienced by three generations, but we do not feel like victims. We have become haunted together in silence, shame and fear. It is no bad thing that we are talking about it today.