I told my colleague: “I was very annoyed to hear the Burkini word from feminists. I mean, women who dress him don't use burka, but hijab. Surely that term will be offensive to you. We should know how they call it.” And he smiled and said, “They call him a swimsuit.”

With the thoughtless and senseless controversy of burkinia, I learned at least that in order to avoid our ethnocentrism, we have to stay alert.

As a result, it is clear to feminists that the initiative of the mayors of France involves the criminalisation of Muslim women; the aim is to win votes and increase police control over the threat of Islamic terrorism. But many say that despite being against sanctions, we must make a critical reading of the right to dress for Muslim women, because the veils are a clear and disturbing patriarchal imposition.

The Galician political scientist Rosa Cobo argued on Facebook the following argument: “What for us [secular European women] is good, isn’t it good for others?” This phrase shows the ethnocentric character of universalism, a symbol of liberation in our country (for example, nudism), which must be applied in any context. We know what is good for others.

In the US series, the president often says I’m the leader of the free world (I’m the leader of the free world). Reading Rosa Cobo, I remembered that phrase. In other words, many white European feminists feel at the forefront of the world’s women and think that they have the moral function of liberating women who seem to be more oppressed. In recent days, I read on Twitter someone who Muslim women have to follow the path of European suffragettes. Our pioneers must be the guides of others.

Faced with this arrogant trend, I see the need to pay attention to decolonizing feminism. Islamic feminists, indigenous, black or gypsies are telling us aloud: “Instead of discussing our oppressions, value our struggle, which also oppresses our paternalism.”

In the last month, I have found a myriad of paws, prejudices and ethnocentric attitudes in the debates of Burkini (including my own). In other words, do not differentiate between burka, niqab and hiyab; confuse the Arab and Muslim concepts; say that women who bathe on the beaches of Europe are foreign or immigrants.

Feminists call on men to identify their everyday chauvinist attitudes and, if they want to participate in the fight for equality, to be placed in the second line and learn. In this case, we should do the same: Discard the idea that we have the capacity to judge the “oppression of others” and listen to the experiences, demands, references and strategies of diverse women. It is possible then that some of our veils will fall.