"We are all referents in sex education"
- The online course "Sex education beyond classrooms" with the UEU will be taught by the sexologist Mar Bakedano Moreno (Baldorba, 1992). She holds a Master’s degree in Sex Education and Counselling from INCISEX, a Clinical Sexology Training from Dos Areas and a Pedagogical and Didactic Training from Technical Professors of Professional Training (NUP). She is also a Diploma of Specialization in Sexual Education (NUP) and a University Specialist in Social Intervention with a Sexological Perspective at ISESUS. I went to talk to him about school.
You want to focus on the importance of sex education... What is Sex Education?
Sex education is a type of education that can be channeled to families, students, professionals, and anyone in general. After all, it is a process that lasts from birth to death and, since we are sexual beings, it is very important in the biography of our life. What is important is the sexual education we have received (if we have received it), or that sexual education that we can receive or that we can investigate or seek.
Who are the references of our children and adolescents?
In general I would say that it is the family, that it is the teachers, that it is all the referents that appear in the media. Why all of them? Because some will talk about sex education or they will talk about sexuality, but many others will not. The thing is, we can't afford not to have sex education. And that all the time it affects what kind of woman we are, what man we are, what kind of orientation our desire is, what our attraction to, what feminine woman, what feminine man, what masculine man we are... We are all referents and everyone is our referents. It's bi-directional.
How to do sex education? What are the tools and resources?
The first priority is that we are people. As sex humans, this is the greatest resource and tool we have. I mean, when I walk into a room and they see the woman I am, well, I'm talking about sex education. I'm saying that I have a feminine temperament, a feminine attire... I am also doing sex education without explaining many things. As I said, we can’t not do sex education, we do it all the time, at all times.
The key lies in the methodology that is based on sex education. What kind of methodology it is, it will mark or decide what kind of sexual education it is. The goals that sex education seeks are to communicate, to have mutual knowledge (both with oneself and with the people around us), to accept our body, to accept our nature, to accept our sexuality and to be more free in this world. To disseminate the positive vision of sexuality and sex, one of the objectives is to increase this vision and, above all, not to educate oneself about fears and risks. So far, or in recent years, sex education has been about putting a condom on a banana and today’s sex education goes beyond that. And this has to do with the course because it goes "beyond": beyond the classrooms, beyond the families, beyond the media, beyond the social networks... because in the end we are all referents in sexual education.
Who is it addressed to?
It is aimed at anyone interested: families, students, professionals... anyone.
Anything to highlight?
It will be a very interesting course, very dynamic and very innovative. I can anticipate that it will be a course like a podcast, not all sections of course, but it will be a course that will be very easy to do, especially one that can be incorporated into the day to day. Maybe we will be cooking or doing sports and listening to a podcast... the course will be very flexible and very enriching for anyone, both professionally and personally.
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