"Instead of changing school to the bullying victim, they should fire the aggressor."
- He's a victim of bullying, always or almost always, of school change, but in a fair system, the director of a college says they'd have to lay off the aggressor. The subject is the subject of a debate which shows that the issue is more complex.
Not only do they move from one school to another, they move from one class to another in the same center, and many people who are bullied have to change. Many have opted for this “injustice” and for the director’s words on social networks, but the shadow of this “solution” has been revealed by some: on the one hand, bullying is often a collective phenomenon, it is not the only aggressor, but the harassment protected by the group and the contaminated environment; on the other hand, sometimes it is so greedy that for the victim to listen it is more than a punishment that it is a problem to change school, because
Most agree that anti-bullying protocols often fail and that the focus should be put on the aggressor: some believe that instead of changing schools some sanction would be more effective (doing some service to the community, sending a week home…). Others say that what is needed is not punishment, but work: going to the root of the problem and delving into the attitudes and situations of the aggressor, putting face to face with it, if necessary with counselor, psychologist, social services... However, proper processing often takes time and resources.
And what do parents say?
Not only in the aggressor, many also focus on the parents, since the intervention of family members is decisive to influence the attitude of the student who is harassing. In other words, it is up to parents to assume the responsibility of trying to change the behavior of this young man, some say.
Nevertheless, prevention and long-term strategies should go beyond short-term decisions when the case has exploded, talk about harassment situations and the different roles involved in them (as the Kiva method does) and talk about class interaction (as in the ikastola de Oiartzun), with the aim of building healthy relationships.
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