"In becoming aware of the death of others (about 5 years old), it is normal that fears appear in children at night, in darkness, in ghosts… Will the mother and father continue the next morning? At 9 years of age, on the contrary, one becomes aware of one's own death and these fears may be at a standstill in the days after the Black Night and the Day of All Saints, which is very present", explains Martínez. The child who has shown fear of death may have recently suffered the death of someone close to him, the wars have also been able to influence him ("wars are very personalized, they seem like close wars, the nearby deaths, the culture of fear and tremendous discontent are common in the media"), and Halloween itself is not of great help: violent deaths (blood everywhere and weaponry is common).

In spite of everything, sharing these fears with us is not bad, it is a sign of trust, "and shared fears are alleviated and weakened in some way, we are strengthened and shared fears can take us tighter." Because talking about death is the first step, and for that the Black Night is a good excuse to share death with emotions and feelings. In addition, in Euskal Herria there are plenty of materials and possibilities, Martinez recalls (like the film Coco or the book Noche Negra by Edurne Mitxeo).

"Are you going to die?"

"Has the child asked me if I'm going to die? Well, I'm not going to lie to you, yes, I would tell you that I'm ever going to die, but I hope it's as late as possible and that the best we can do is take the time. The ideal is to respond briefly and transparently to the questions they ask, because sometimes we adults complicate ourselves in the answers, because of our fears and taboos. In addition, we are not going to have an answer to all the questions, because often everyone has to build their own answer, for example, when they ask us what is after death; some think one thing and others think another. The euphemisms must be avoided. Saying ‘has gone to sleep forever’ can lead the child not to want to sleep, fearing that he will not return, while saying ‘has gone on a long journey’ can bring a huge sense of abandonment…”. Naroa Martínez explained this to us in an interview on death.

Fear is universal, it's also linked to the instinct of survival, and it's up to adults to teach children how to manage them. The experts say: talking about what is fearful is fundamental, it is worse to take it silently, ridiculing fears and removing importance to the attitude of the child in the face of this fear is not the way, listening, understanding, empathizing and not judging, sharing emotions and feelings, and accompanying to overcome some fears and learn to live with others.

Also in this case, the key is to face the taboo of death, raise emotions and accompany. If we speak naturally of death, "when a near death occurs, both the child and we will be more prepared to face it, the existence of literate in death will provide us with tools to predict the coming duels and mitigate the process, at least in theory, because the unknown generates more fear". If we have worked on the subject before, for example, the child will know that "besides being sad, he may also feel angry". "That the young man cannot leave anything in any space, that should worry us," Naroa Martínez warned us.