In all the fighting, the role of the allies is of vital importance, the contradiction is contradictory. I'm white, and yet I started militating in anti-racism. With my boyfriend, I started doing activism for sexual diversity. But even though I had a child one day, I didn't realize the violence of violence from violence until I was my mother. Because when the status of political subject is denied to those who experience oppression, it is difficult to achieve allies. This is true of children, but also of the elderly, people with intellectual disabilities or non-human animals. The management of COVID-19 has revealed all these power axes: maturity, age, fitness, specism. On the contrary, these are words that few people know on the street and that are also symptomatic.

The anthropologist María José Capellín used the acronym BBVA to define the subject with power in patriarchal capitalist society: “White, Bourgeois, Male and Adult” (white, bourgeois, man and adult). I must admit that the meaning of this last letter was for me the most vague. When I have been a mother, however, for the first time from the point of view of children I have analyzed some issues that are found in feminism:

In the debate on maternity and paternity leave, conciliation needs and the lack of adult co-responsibility are put at the centre. For its part, the PETRA platform Amatasuna Feministak has denounced that the measure of paritarian and non-transferable leave of 16 weeks hinders natural lactation and discriminates against those born in families monoparentales.En the
debate of surrogate pregnancies has also detected new knots: on the one hand, that the respected childbirth, which has taken special importance, are incompatible with the affective growth

There are many children who suffer very violent institutional violence, such as the children of immigrants. Some are growing up without parents because of the strict conditions of reunification established by the Aliens Act. Nor is Spanish nationality recognized to those born in the Spanish state. And if parents are undocumented, children are at risk of becoming unprotected.

Another example is that of children with backpacks, victims of the anti-terrorist law and the policy of dispersion. The author Katixa Agirre stated in the manifesto of the Irati guraseok campaign in Euskal Herria that violence against children lies in the fact that minors are considered second-class persons, “the mere responsibility of parents or the property of parents or mere extensions of parents. In any case, they will not complain, they will not be able, nor will they raise their voices, no one will listen to them.”

That's what Irune Costumero's daughter has felt over and over again by telling judges and social service workers that a battering father has. However, the mother has been taken away from the guardianship of Parental Alienation Syndrome (GAS) and forced to live with her father. Costumer is clear about the root of the machista invention GAS: for patriarchal justice both women and children are liars.

I agree with Agirre’s call to unite the struggles for women’s and children’s rights: “Feminism opened up this revolutionary idea: women are also people. A similar revolutionary motto must be launched: children are also people.”